One of the biggest transitions that you will ever face is the one from education to employment. It can be extremely daunting and challenging trying to find your feet and establish yourself in the “real world” as a graduate fresh out of university, or even as a school or college leaver. Despite millions of young people experiencing this tough transition every year, it’s a topic that remains largely unacknowledged, whilst young people are generally expected to get on with it. In the midst of this whirlwind, it is a time when you start to question the world and even yourself, your goals and ambitions. Having experienced all of the above first hand, here are the lessons I have learned along the way and the useful mantras I live by:
1. If you don’t love yourself, nobody else will
You need to learn to be your own biggest cheerleader. You need to have faith in your abilities and believe that you are the right person for the job (or whatever opportunity you are going for). Realise that there will always be somebody who is more than happy to take your place. Learn to believe in yourself, or at least learn how to give off the impression that you do. Self-confidence goes a long way, so smile and have faith in yourself and your abilities, because this is likely to rub off on your audience!
2. You make your own luck
I don’t believe in luck. When people say things like ‘You’re lucky to be where you are’, ‘You’re lucky to have got that job’ or insert here whatever else you are lucky for, I actually find it quite annoying. I disagree. You didn’t get anything because of luck, unless you win the lottery! But even that has some mad calculation going on behind it. Whatever you have, you earned it, you worked for it, you achieved it and you deserved it. So don’t believe in luck, realise that you make your own. And following on from this, don’t wait around for things to happen, be proactive and go after what you want.
3. Don’t waste your time on things or people that won’t change
You will find in life that some people and some things will never ever change. You will also learn that time is the most precious thing in the world – you can’t buy it, stop it or change it. Rather than dwelling on people or things that you unfortunately don’t have the power to change, make peace with yourself about these situations, move on and channel your energy elsewhere.
4. Know yourself
The most important relationship that you have is the one you have with yourself. You need to learn to be your own best friend and stand on your own two feet. Take the time to get to know yourself; your likes and dislikes, strengths and flaws, hopes and aims. Set aside some you time every week. Whether you use this time to go to a coffee shop, attend a yoga class or be at home, make sure you take some time to enjoy your own company and have a good think. Learn to understand the way your mind and body operates and know your limits. It’s okay to say no, to turn things down and skip socials when you know it won’t positively impact you. Realise that you make the rules for your own life. You don’t need to live up to anyone else’s expectations.
5. Never underestimate your worth
You are invaluable. You are amazing in your own way and you are probably capable of achieving way more than you think. Many people hold themselves back by underestimating themselves, but what you have to remember is that you have to be in it to win it. And that goes for all aspects of life. So instead of questioning your capabilities, considering other people’s opinions and letting external factors influence your decisions, don’t underestimate yourself, put yourself out there and just go for it! Whether that relates to applying for a new job, taking up a hobby or trying something new.
These are just a few of the lessons that I have learned as a millennial graduate. They have helped me to navigate these trying times and my first steps into the world of adulting and employment. I hope that they that serve you well. Now go out there and carve out the life that you deserve!
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A photo from my graduation; my first steps into the world of adulting..
How did you find the transition from education to employment?
Do you have any tips or mantras that you live by?
L.
Great post! Unfortunately when I finished my degree, it became apparent we weren’t qualified for anything as the course wasn’t accredited as we were led to believe it was. So imagine coming out of uni and not even being qualified in what you studied in. Alas, as you say, you make your own luck. I went into a job I had no interest in simply becsuse I really needed work and it propelled my career. I’m now working as a coordinator at a university in medical education! Very unrelated but I enjoy it! People shouldn’t feel so much pressure. X
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Thanks for your comment Francesca. That’s really unfair that you were misled. But yes, of course – you definitely make your own luck! Well done you! 😁
L. X
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These are great things to have learned and to work towards. I am still working on the loving myself part! I find it very hard. Such a positive post! Thanks for sharing! And congratulations on the graduation ☺️Xx
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Thanks for your thoughts 😁 It is really tough trying to implement these lessons in everyday life, but worth it if you can 😁 Thanks very much!
L. X
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I am a retired college professor and these are the things I tried to teach my students! Great wisdom😍
Dana
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Thanks so much Dana! That’s great to hear 😁
L.
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Definitely can relate to this post. The transition is hard and it’s a long one from after school till getting to a job position you like and feel proud of. Takes time which isn’t ideal for recent grads as lots of debt and what not. So important to know your worth and know what you want. I think it’s also important to not be afraid to try things and not get fixated on the next job I’ll be doing for the rest of my life because that almost never happens anymore. Good read, thanks!
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Thank you for your comment and for reading this post! I’m glad that you found you could relate to it. I definitely agree! The transition is tough and it’s not spoken about enough.
L.
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I hope you reach your goals and the life you want the most!
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Thanks for reading!
L.
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I loved reading this, I thought all the points you made were very valid. I found the transition from uni into work very stressful but it helps to know that lots of people are going through the same thing x
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Thank you for your comment and for reading this post! I’m glad that you like it. It is such a tough transition and one that is often ignored, despite so many people experiencing it every year!
L. X
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Hi there!
This is a great post – thank you for sharing! These are important “lessons” that everyone should learn in their life; whether they went to school or even employment. The transition from teenager to adult alone is enough of a reason to learn these valuable skills. These are easy things, yet they can feel daunting while in the process! I definitely agree with your list. The hardest for me to learn was the loving yourself one – it was a REALLY hard one to figure out. However, I’m glad that I learned to.
Thank you for bringing my attention to your blog! You’re doing a fantastic job!
CiCi | Navigation To Happiness
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Thank you for reading this post and for commenting CiCi. It’s great to know that you enjoyed my post and agreed with my “lessons learned”!
Thanks again.
L.
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Some really great tips in here that everyone could use! It’s crazy to think young people are supposed to transition so abruptly from school life to work life without any troubles! I’m sure this post will help out lots of people.
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Thank you for reading and for taking the time to comment Kristin! I’m really glad that you thought the tips were useful 😁
L.
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I love these lessons! Definitely something I need to remember, such a great post. Xx
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Thank you for reading! I’m really glad that you like the post 😁
L. X
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This is such a good post! I’ve learnt a few of these things along the way, too, although a bit later in life than you have haha. I particularly agree with “you make your own luck”. I used to feel bad about my life and say that nothing good happened for me, but then I realised I wasn’t doing anything to make it happen! I was just waiting for something to change when, all along, I could have changed it myself.
Great post!!
Ruth | http://www.ruthinrevolt.com
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Thank you for your lovely comment Ruth. I am so glad that you like the post! Yes, it’s all about going after what you want and making things happen. Well done you!
Thanks again.
L. X
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